Saturday, November 20, 2010

Trying the Postive thing.....still fighting with hubby

Everyone keeps telling me that this is a stressful time in my life and that fighting with the hubby is to be expected. Basically they are telling me to cut hubby some slack. I guess I am just way too stubborn for my own good. I will give in but it really isn't in my nature. We kind of made up from our previous fight over the lasagna/preggo co-worker but that was short lived. I have a very short fuse right now so I think my silent treatment is just the tip of the iceburg. So basically fight #2 was over my Gonal F shot. Hubby knows that I can't give the shot to myself (I faint when giving blood) so when I started my shots on Thursday night I mentioned to hubby (who I have barely been talking to) that they had to be taken around the same time every night. Hubby didn't seem to have any reaction to what I said and proceeded to shoot me up. So then about an hour later when things between us seemed to be going much better he announces that he has a work Christmas Party to go to on Friday night (that he has never mentioned before). So basically what he is saying is that he will be out all night and I am Shit out of luck as far as the shot goes. This frustrates me to no end because he minimalizes the situation and says just give it to yourself. Oh sure, why didn't I think of that.....ah freakin asshole...I can't do it! So I had to drive an hour to my sister's house to have her inject me. His excuse for not telling me about the party was that we weren't speaking anyways and that the shot is no big deal. Got it, I am in this alone!
On another note I think my accupuncturist might be a pervert. No seriously the first time we met he was way too casual and I am 100% sure I caught him looking at my boobs. This is bizarre because I barely have any but I did catch him with locked eyes on my little beauties. Then yesterday I had lovered my pants for him to insert the needles in my tummy and he unbottoned my pants and zipped my pants all the way down. Um so low that my pubs were exposed, correct me if I am wrong an accupuncturist isn't a real doctor. Plus even my own doctor tells me to unzip my pants he doesn't just do it himself. The entire experience just seems to be really seedy. He swears a lot and talks about his personal life like we are old pals. Before each appointment we meet in his office and I feel like I am at a bar being hit on. Seriously it is just weird. The thing is, he is reasonably priced and I really want accupuncture on the day of the transfer. Plus, I don't think at this point I could find anyone else to come to my clinic with this short notice. Trust me if this cycle doesn't work I will not be using him next cycle.
Anyways I have been trying to be positive which is kind of a struggle for me because I am a realist, knowing the statistics of getting preggo on your first round of IVF I just don't want to get let down.
So to keep positive and to have fun with this process today I compiled a list of possible baby names. Actually I don't even know if I like half of them but it was fun to do. So here they are:
Boys Names
Girls Names


  1. I'm sorry you guys are still fighting. It sucks. I def think IF adds a LOT of stress and shit that normal people don't have to deal with. I think your acu dr is a big perv. I always unbuttoned my own pants with the exception of 1 or 2 times that my dr has done it b/c my hands had needles in them but she only lowered it a little, not even past my undies. But I can see how switching right might not be good. Hopefully you get KU and don't have to worry about finding a new one =).

  2. Okay the party thing is so infuriating! You should not have to be in this alone!! I would not be one of the ones piping in to give your hubby some slack. He needs to step it up in my opinion.

    Okay on to the more fun topic... baby names... my husband and i throw around names too now and then. I love Chloe although one of our cats is named Chloe so that wouldn't work for us.

    Oh and on a final note... that acupuncture behaviour... so inappropriate! I get not wanting to change this far into the game but really, who does he think he is!

  3. I live in Mel.bourne...on the other coast but only a few hrs away. =)

    Yea lucky for me I have a MIL and a MIL is a fucking whore and has done some real mean stuff to me including pointing every preg person and how cute they were and how far along they were and yadda yadda. The step-MIL hasn't been as bad until now..she is going to go in the same category as my other MIL. My SIL said her grandma gave her advise a long time ago...that you should marry an orphan so you don't have to deal with any of their fam...wishing I did.

  4. I love both the girl and boy names...I have always loved Aiden if we ever have a boy..Sorry you and DH are fighting, that is very stressful...I hope it gets better for you. Maybe you need a "come to Jesus" meeting! *hugs*

  5. Ugh - that sucks about your hubby not getting it about the shot thing. I knew I wouldn't be able to rely on him, so from day one, I always gave myself my shots. I insist that he sits in the room with me while I do it - if he happens to be home - but most of the time I just do it myself. Sorry though - this sucks!

    And your acupuncturist sounds a bit creepy... Any others in the area? I know it sucks to switch but if you don't feel comfortable with him...

    And thanks for your response on my blog. To answer your question as to why I'm considering going to Vegas for IVF, Dr. Sher at SIRM is considered one of the top IVF docs in the world. I've already met with him a couple times - he does free consults over the phone - and he's the only doc I've spoken with that I feel is amazing. He's particularly well-versed in immunology issues, which given my recent natural killer cell results, is important. Please let me know if you'd like to discuss further!

    Thanks for following my blog - I will definitely be following you on your IVF journey...

  6. Ugh.....never a good feeling to feel all alone in this. We IF peeps isolate enough without losing our partners, too. :-(

    Um, ew. That's for the acu. Completely inappropriate and creepy. Wish you could ditch that guy immediately. Ugh.

    I vote Jackson and Sadie. Too cute.

  7. Wow, that is crazy about him going to the party. I can see him wanting to go, but go after the shot!!!!
    He is in this too!
    Also, I love your names, Avery is my favorite girl name (hopefully, someday I will get to use it)!
    Stay positive!

  8. Please know that all this fighting is normal under IF stress. I hate it when I come across blogs in which marriages are painted like fairytales and husband's are little angels that come to every appt and are there for every shot (really????). I do hope you guys can work your way around this.
    something is up with your acu. I certainly have been pants free so she can get to my belly and legs, but always in a very respectful, non-creepy way. Sounds like it is time to start looking around or to have a stern talk with your current one,
    thinking of you....

  9. When my hubs and I were doing IVF we fought nonstop. He had to go out of town a couple times when doing the shots and I was always pissed. So, I can totally relate! Give it time...this is a very stressful time in your life and a lot to juggle. Communication will be key during this time... Take care and good luck. BTW - dude totally seems pervy - don't go back to him. Weirdo. :-)

  10. I am so sorry to hear about you and DH fighting. As if this stuff isn't hard enough...and then to feel even more alone...that just sucks. I really hope things improve.

    The acu definitely seems sketchy! I hope you can be done with him soon. YUCK!

    I am loving so many of your baby names! So fun! I think I have made 2 or 3 lists over the years. No idea where they are now. So depressing!