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Ungrateful?????

Okay, so I should start off by saying that my husband is a great dad and prioritizes our family.  However he isn't perfect, okay neither am I, but we are talking about him. The truth is, I do things the right way and he needs to follow my lead at all times (that's reasonable right.....lol). Okay I am kidding a bit, but not really.  I spend the majority of time with the boys (he works 6 days a week for a minimum of 10 hours per day). Therefore I have established "the routine" and generally am responsible for the day to day running of the household (kids included). Due to the amount of time hubby is away from home, on the rare occasion that he is home early from work early he generally offers to take over bedtime (Hallelujah for that). This is when I usually head to the grocery store and get errands done, not glamorous but a break all the same. I do my best not to leave too many instructions but it's hard.  I guess it would be better to just let him have daddy time and be happy to have a competent spouse who is willing to step up. Well, sometimes competent isn't good enough. 
So this is my vent session on how my husband rebels and refuses to follow my direct orders....lol. I am laughing but it is very frustrating.
The following are my grievances in no particular order:
1. He feeds them in their bouncy chairs instead of their high chairs
2. He refuses to brush their teeth and gums because he says it isn't necessary because they only have a few teeth
3. He fed them strawberries even though I asked him not to (I know that generally people think they are safe but I am a worrier)
4. He doesn't ever get on the floor and play with them. He picks them up plenty of the time and has them on his lap or sitting next to him but he never gets down and plays with them.
5. He doesn't give them a bottle before bed because he says they shouldn't need it because they have just recently eaten. Needless to say the nights he put them down I have to go in an hour later and give them each a bottle. He acts surprised every time, so annoying!
6. He won't mix fruit or vegetables with any cereals because he says it looks disgusting.
7. He used to question my sleep schedule (he used to question if the boys needed to have a specific bedtime when he wanted to participate in social outings) until I let him take the wait and see approach and they had an epic meltdown.
8. He doesn't feed them anything messy (Cheerios/Mum crackers)
9. He throws the laundry on the nursery floor even though the hamper is 4 steps away from the change table.
10. He refuses to let me use a soother lanyard (not sure what they are called) to clip Fynn's soother to him. Therefore I am always reaching under the crib and searching the house for soothers.
11. If Fynn wakes up at night (he hasn't lately but had to document this one) he feeds him but never changes his diaper.  That means by morning time his diaper is about a million pounds. He says changing his diaper will stimulate him way too much, although when I do it he goes right back to sleep.
12. ****this will not generate sympathy but still aggravates me so why not mention it********
When he wakes up with the boys in the morning (he gets up at 6:00 am and lets me sleep until 6:30 when he has to get ready for work) he doesn't have time to change their diapers and they he barely feeds them any of their bottles. Plus he has them in their bouncy chairs watching cartoons (I try to avoid having the t.v on). ***side note he makes time to stop at Tim Hortons and get a offee and breakfast sandwich on the way to work**

Okay, now that I have made him look like a terrible father, my job is done......lol. I know I am not perfect and I would hate for him to analyze my skills and choices. However, I am a woman so I get to complain.
I feel much better now!

My dirty little secret!

We use a Jolly Jumper......judge away.....lol. The boys love it and I like to see them happy.  Plus if it delays their walking then that is a bonus (I am kidding of course).  Excuse my cold, I sound like a 70 year old smoker and wish I knew how to take the volume off the video.

Weekend Away!

Well I think I am one of the very few mothers of twins that can say they had an entire weekend away without their 7 month old twins.  It was great to get away but I missed the boys like crazy.  Of course I knew they were in amazing hands with my sister and mom but I still missed their smiling faces.  They are at such a fun stage and it is hard to miss a moment. It was however great to spend time with friends, eat some leisurely meals, and even sleep in. I feel like G and I have lots of time together at home but it is much different when you are away.  We stayed at a gorgeous Inn for the weekend where Graham was the Best Man at our good friends' wedding. It was a lovely wedding with all of our closest friends attending.  The Inn is located 2 hours from our house and it is right on a beautiful lake.  The bride and groom decided to forgo the honeymoon suite for a bigger double room so they gave it to us.  They even insisted on paying for both nights (they said it included in their wedding package).  We enjoyed our time away but were very excited to get back to the boys. I think the boys are sick of mommy hugging them because I can't help but squeeze them all of the time since I have been home.  The best part of everything is that my mom and sister followed my "schedule" to a t and the boys came home right on track.  There literally hasn't even been one hiccup since we have been home.  This is a big contrast to our visit to my in-laws cottage. 

 

In other exciting news my baby Fynn is crawling, that's right crawling.  He had been rocking for a couple of days and even took a few "steps" crawling but now he can crawl all the way to whatever object he desires.  He doesn't do it all of the time but he can when he wants to.  I am so screwed......lol!

Seven Months

Fynn on the left and Hudson on the right                                         Happy Hudson talking away

Naked time before bath time

       
                                                                                                             Fynn getting ready to take off!


Well we've had another great month my boys! Again we had a lot of firsts  and this parenting thing continues to change on a daily basis. You boys are a LOT more active and you keep me on my toes.  Gone are the days of napping in your car seats (did that used to happen) and being happy spending more than an hour stilling in your stroller.  Now you are happier moving, stretching and playing.  Thank goodness for naps and an early bedtime or mommy wouldn't be able to keep up. 

Fynn
Holy cow Mr. Finnister you are a busy guy.  It is nearly impossible to change your diaper these days because you literally NEVER want to stay still.  You roll like crazy and grab anything that is within reach. You have decided that you are ready to crawl and although you haven't actually done a propper step forward you are able to get up on all fours.  Generally you shift back and forth a couple of times before you squirm backwards.  Unfortunately that gets you further away from whatever object you are trying to get to so you get frustrated. Your whining is getting better but there is a reason we lovingly call you Finicky Fynn.
This month you also got your first two teeth. Wow, I couldn't believe it when Dr. G pointed out that you were cutting a bottom tooth.  It turns out that it was actually two teeth that were coming in at the same time. You look so grown up with your two new little chiclets.  It also feels like one of your top teeth might be in soon too and I bet that changes your look once again. I am not sure if you were any fussier than your usual self.  You did had a couple of nights were you woke up 2 times throughout the night but we aren't sure if that was because of your teeth or if it was just coincidence. 
You now LOVE your jolly jumper.  That's right even after all of the physical therapy warnings mommy lets you jump in a jumper. You love it and beam from ear to ear. You are so proud of yourself and it is great to see you so happy.
The one thing you don't love to do is sit.  You are actually pretty sturdy when mommy places you in the sitting position and you can stay up for 5 or more minutes (then you loose your focus and dive forward).  You never try to get yourself into the sitting position and when you are walking holding my fingers and I try to sit you down you stiffen your legs and refuse to sit.  I think if you could you would stand at all times.  You love walking with my fingers and mommy is worried you will be an early walker (your cousin walked at 9 months and that scares mommy a lot!). Although you aren't pulling up on things at all so maybe we have a while before we have to get ready for that.
You are getting increasingly vocal, especially in the morning and before bath time.  You yelp and laugh and I love hearing you and your brother throughout the house.
You have found your smile my boy and it comes out so much more often. You have even smiled at a stranger or two....lol

Hudson
It has been so much fun watching you continue to be more outgoing and vocal this month.  You have caught up to your brother in all areas and it looks like you might be the first one to crawl. You are constantly up on all fours and ready to move.  You have taken one or two "steps" forward in the crawling position but then come crashing down.  You just smile and then try it again. Like your brother it is almost impossible to change your diaper because you can't stay still. You roll and squirm and you guys are way too strong to be babies.
You also got your first tooth this month. It is on the bottom and it feels like more are soon to follow. You are such a little trooper and we barely even saw the signs of any discomfort caused by the new tooth. One night you woke up a couple of times with a little whimper but were quickly soothed with a cuddle and some tylenol.  Mommy has been giving you some pain relief medicine nightly before bed just in case for the past two nights.
Like your brother you aren't very interested in sitting. You are okay in the highchair and in mommy's lap but you aren't too sturdy on your own yet.  When mommy sets you up like a tripod, using your arms to stabilize you, you can sit for a couple of minutes but eventually you topple over. You don't seem comfortable but we keep working on it. We are doing a ton of tummy time and you get stronger every day.
You are still my smily guy and I love seeing you so happy all of the time. You love your daddy and he makes you laugh so hard, it is hilarious.  You love "talking" to your brother and whenever you get a chance you man handle him.  You love to explore and you grab everything.  Your favourite thing to explore lately is faces and you aren't gentle....lol. Mommy has had to make sure your nails are trimmed so that you don't hurt any of us. You also LOVE to pull hair. Mommy is sporting a bun now most of the time but when she forgets she gets a quick reminder.

I love you my beautiful boys and I can't wait to see what this month has in store for us!

Mommy's Night out!

I had my first night out since having the boys on Saturday night and I am just now STARTING to get back into the swing of things.  Don't get me wrong I have gone to a couple of movies and dinner with my husband (which were nice) but Saturday night was my first night out with the girls. It was also the first time I participated in adult drinks (lots of them), dancing, and even a stripper (yuck).  It was my girlfriend's stagette and we had a blast.  The only problem when you are a mommy and you drink is that you are on duty the next day.  It isn't your childrens fault that you were letting loose the night before and they don't get that you have a pounding headache.  Was it worth it?...........heck yeah........will I do it again soon?........not on your life!

We have a tooth, and it's a boy!

Yesterday we went to our first appointment with our new pediatrician and it went very well. Not sure if I mentioned it before but I strongly dislike my previous pediatrician.  He made off colored jokes (usually I don't mind some but not in a professional setting) and crossed the line about my sister being our egg donor (asked hubby if my sister was hot and then said they should have just got a hotel room and saved all of the expense). The boys are doing well and a lot the little concerns are clearing up (they had some fluid in their testicals and Fynn had a bit of a hernia). Then he asked me if they had any teeth and I quickly responded no.  Well insert foot in mouth because sure enough my baby boy Fynn indeed has his first tooth poking through.  I guess I thought it would be bigger or more apparent.  The boys wiggle so much and barely stay still for a second so it is difficult to get a good look in their mouth. I have felt around and thought I felt some harder spots but then thought nothing of it. Anyway, just a sliver of the tooth is showing and I am so excited for him.  I know I say it way too much but these guys are really growing up.
In other news my sister in law (hubby's brother's wife) is pregnant and due in January.  Lord knows how anyone keeps a secret as long as they did (she was 16 weeks before they announced it) but she found out today she will be having a boy. Side note, they got pregnant the second month they were trying (bitch....lol). This is great news but I won't lie I was kind of hoping for a girl. I know every child is amazing and all of that unicorn and fairy dust shit but it would have worked out so well for me. That's right, it's all about me.....lol. Clearly I will love my nephew and it will be great to have another playmate and family member for my boys. However,on hubby's side there are no girls. His father is an only child, his father's father was an only child, hubby has two brothers, we have the two boys and  then their is one nephew . So let's just say that side needs a little estrogen.  I was so hoping to soften those men up just a a little bit. I guess in a perfect world I could have another baby and this time it would be a girl.....yeah right.

6 month check up (our appointment was 2 weeks late) Fynn 17.2 pounds
                                                                                        Hudson 16.4 pounds