I had never imagined myself as a stay at home mom. Hubby doesn't make a ton of money and kids are expensive, plus I love teaching. So today when I made the final decision not to return to work I panicked. Up until now I have always seen myself as being on an extended maternity leave. However, now it is official, I have no job to go back to and it is damn scary. Teaching jobs here are very difficult to come by and I am risking my career to take another year off. We can't sustain the family on one income for longer than that so this is a bit of a risk. I had always pictured myself as a kick ass stong working mom that could balance both, ugh what a hard decision.
I doubt you will ever regret being with your boys full time for another year- they are only little once and those firsts only happen once too. I am excited for you that you get to be home with your little guys!!!
ReplyDeleteSo true I just feel like I am loosing a bit of my identity if that makes sense
DeleteThat really is a hard decision- I hope you make peace with it.
ReplyDeleteI've been a stay at home wife since I was 36wks pregnant with V, and now obliviously a SAHM. It can be demanding, there are some really hard days, but it's also really awesome. I haven't regretted my decision once. But I've never been career oriented- my goal was always this. While I might not be able to relate entirely, I do understand why and how this is a hard choice to make. I think you'll enjoy it though. Best wishes on everything :)
Thanks, I like it but I do miss the social aspect of my job. I really loved teaching so I miss it a lot. I couldn't leave my boys at this point but it is still a big shock to me.
DeleteI feel like two at that age would be really costly for child care and for us it would make more sense for someone to stay home. I may end up working straight evenings when maternity leave for baby #2 is over for that reason.
ReplyDeleteI imagine the decision did not come easy but everything will work out just the way it needs too. :)
Daycare is expensive I would have only brought home about $600 a month and when you factor in gas (The commute is an hour each way) it would be more like $200. It just didn't make sense.
DeleteI wish I could work nights but hubby works 12+ hours and doesn't get home until 8pm at the earliest.
KC...congrats on the SAHM status! I can imagine that is scary since you say teaching jobs are scarce where you are. I love teaching too but I am looking forward to my leave as well. Is there something you could do on the side? I am a consultant on the side for a candle company so I am hoping to spend some time on that when I am home to help with some of the expenses. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Kelli,right now hubby's schedule is pretty hard to work around and paying someone to watch the kids would cancel out any income. Hopefully soon we can figure something out because I would love to have some sort of outlet.
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