However, if I am being 100% honest with myself I have to admit that sometimes (like once or twice since they were born) I wonder what a baby born using my eggs and my husband's sperm would look like. I know this might sound ungrateful or senseless to some but I have to be honest. It's not that I want anything different than what I have with my boys. I could not love them anymore and I am 100% happy with how things turned out. My boys were meant to be my boys and if we hadn't gone through the egg donor process with my sister they wouldn't be here. I am forever grateful to her and I wouldn't change anything. It is just what I consider a nutural curiousity. I have a feeling people who adopt continue to wonder the same thing.
Anyways the reason I write this is because my sister is helping my mom put all of her photographs on her computer and she sent a picture of me at 6 months. I immediately started to cry (like full on weep) The first thing I saw in that picture was my son Hudson. I know this is silly and it shouldn't matter but I do see myself in him. People always tell me he looks like me but I shake it off. I think to myself "that's what everyone tells the mother". However today when I saw it too it brought me to tears. Okay, please don't think I am a narsassist or something. It doesn't mean I love him more or less. Fynn looks nothing like anyone in our family and I could never love him any more than I do. It just made me emotional because I thought to myself, maybe this is what my "egg children" would look like anyways.
Don't get me wrong I wouldn't have cared if my kids were a different race it was just a curiousity. I think a child takes on their parent's expressions, and traits and ends up looking like them regardless of how they came to them. We have family friends who adopted and at times in my life I thought they must have been mistaken because their children looked soooo much like them.
Anyways here is a picture, you might not see it but I sure do. Maybe it is just the eyebrows....lol
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Hudson at 3 months
Hudson and I last summer. Man I look tired (that was a very LONG week at my in-laws cottage without my husband). . Being a stay at home mom has caused me to be a fatty I know this because that sweatshirt no longer fits me at all :(
I definitely see it :)
ReplyDeleteI most definitely see it ♥
ReplyDeleteHe totally looks like you. But I would say that from the picture of you holding him, without seeing your baby picture! Love it!
ReplyDeleteWow! He most certainly does look like you!! And I agree with JJ's comment above.. even in the one of you last summer, you look very much like him. Then that baby picture.. yep.. for sure!
ReplyDeleteThanks ladies, it is such a silly post. I hate to sound so superficial. Geesh I know people who have conceived the "regular" way who have children that look nothing like them. Plus my neice looks like my twin. It was curiousity more than anything.
ReplyDeleteI have always thought he looked like you. :) And I don't think it sounds ungrateful at all to wonder, just natural curiosity.
ReplyDeleteI think it's very normal to be curious about stuff like that. I was adopted, and we always thought it was funny how many people would tell us I look like my dad or mom or whatever. But yes, I was always curious about my bio parents. I just met my bio dad, and I don't see the resemblance at all...
ReplyDeleteBut I definitely can see the resemblance between you and Hudson!
I see it! I think those are completely natural thoughts. :D
ReplyDeleteIt's funny, my sister's kids look way more like me than my own does. I see pictures of my youngest niece and they could've been pictures of me from the same age. But my own daughter? She takes after her paternal grandfather, so when I look at her not only do I not see any of me, I don't see any of my husband either!
ReplyDeleteMakes her all the more cuter. :)
I can totally see the resemblence!
ReplyDeleteThanks for not making me feel crazy. Genetics sure are funny! I
ReplyDeleteHe definitely looks just like you.
ReplyDeleteI feel like we are incredibly lucky to have our sisters as donors. Even though we have DE babies, we still get to have a pretty normal discussion about whether our babies look like us! Of course as some others have pointed out, even adopted or non-related donor kids sometimes get people saying they look like their non- bio parents too! But it's funny how many conversations my husband I have already had about whether our baby boy looks like me - at least at this point, he has my coloring and not my husband's or sister's. I think it would be hilarious if my daughter with my own eggs ended up looking much less like me than my son with my sister's eggs!
ReplyDeleteHow cute are they!? Congrats on your precious babies :)
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I came across your blog from a comment you left on another. I was drawn to read your story because I am currently pregnant with twins, because I also am fortunate enough to have an incredible sister as our egg donor. My sister and I look very much alike, so my kids do have a chance of lookin like me as well. I am looking forward to reading more of your story.
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