Thursday, January 10, 2013

I'm pretty famous you know (well kind of)

I am sure you aren't aware that I am pretty important this month....lol. My sister and I are in this months issue of Glamour Magazine, well in a tiny blurb on the side of an artice, but that counts right!  Actually one of the editors of the magazine happens to read my blog (who knew) and contacted me over a year ago.  I did a phone interview, then my sister did a phone interview, and even hubby was interviewed. It probably sounds a lot more "glamour"ous than it really is.  The amount of time it took; including numerous emails going back and forth, verifying my medical history, the interviews themsleves, and fact checking all for a couple of quotes seems a bit ridiculous.  That just gives me a glimpse of what goes into making magazines, and it seems crazy.
I had to laugh when I saw the title of the article.  The premise is asking the reader if they would ever use their sister as an egg donor. Talk about trivializing the issue, like I woke up one day and thought hell why not.  Seriously unless someone is dealing with infertility it isn't something anyone can truly understand. Did I ever think that I would use my sister as an egg donor, 15, 20 or even 5 years ago, not a chance. Not that I was against it, it just wasn't in any plan I ever had. Honestly I don't really even want to read peoples opinions, I don't care what they think.  Maybe I am a skeptic but I just don't think it is possible for the general population to get "my journey" (or the journey of other infertile women). Actually come to think of it, I do care what they think.  I guess I didn't use to, but now that my boys are here they deserve the respect and dignity of any baby or person for that matter and I feel protective of what some people might say.  I really don't want to hear about it being creepy or about how I could have "just adopted" (like that is a simple and easy decision in itself ).  My point is that it was a personal choice that was right for me and my family and I don't really want to be criticized or even scrutinized for my decision. I don't know why I am assuming that there will be that kind of feedback but I just know some people out there aren't as open minded as I would like them to be.  Don't get me wrong for the most part people have been so supportive and kind about my journey.  They seem to understand the deep desire to be a mother and celebrate what a wonderful thing my sister did for us.  However, we all know how rude and judgmental people can be when hiding behind a computer.  Plus I have had the odd rude encounter. My boss for one, she said that me carrying my sister and husbands babies (they are my damn babies by the way) was like a Jerry Springer episode and then there was my pediatrician who continuously asked why my husband and sister just didn't get a hotel room instead of racking up all of our treatment bills. I guess it is just plain old ignorance and that's actually why I did the article, hoping I would shed some light on the issue and let people know difficult infertility is, how incredible science is, and most of all how amazing my sister is.
They also present egg donation as the latest trend, which is so ridiculous! I would describe it more of a huge medical marvel mixed with a pure act of altruism.  I didn't jump on some bandwagon to be cool.
I actually think that I am being a bit critical of the article because nothing could really ever descibe what it is like to make such a big decision and nobody really knows your journey until they walk in your shoes.  Just a thought but I think a new title for the article could be "The Difficult Journey of  an Infertile Women to Make her Dreams of  Motherhood Come True: A Story of an Extremely Generous Sister and Her Truly Grateful Sister".
Anyways if you happen to be a Glamour Magazine follower or in the grocery store checking out take a look at page 120 " Would You Have a Baby With Your Sister’s Egg?
A real-life story you’ll never forget—about a trend that’s on the rise"

17 comments:

  1. wow! that's so look cool! I will be buying that magazine and reading it for sure!!!

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  2. Oh wow, how neat!! I wish we got magazines here because I would definitely buy it for this reason. I wonder if it can be found online? Enjoy your fame!! ;)

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  3. Whoa so cool! Love Glamour Magazine! Will check it out! :)

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  4. How have I never come across your blog? New follower! Congrats on your twins! So happy your infertility journey had a happy ending. Hope we are as fortunate. I'll be grabbing a copy of the magazine.

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  5. Wow. Thanks for at least putting yourself out there ecen if tgey took it ib a different direction!!!

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  6. I wish I had of read this a few hours ago! I was just at the store staring at the magazine rack trying to decide if I wanted one or not, now I'm going to have to go back tomorrow and buy it :)
    That's pretty cool your story is being featured, hopefully it will help spread awareness about infertility, maybe even inspire someone else to take a route they hadent considered.
    Try not to worry or think about any of the negative people, of course there will be some, there always is. <3

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  7. Hi! I stumbled across your blog via a comment on another blog. I think your journey is awesome and it is unfortunate that after all you (we all) have been through, we continue to live with a protective shell to keep our stories safe. What your family has done is a beautiful thing.

    Congrats on making it to Glamour! Crazy! Good for you guys! :)

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    1. Thanks so much Alicia, hopefully it does shed some light on all of our struggles!

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  8. Just wanted to let you know I nominated you for an award on my blog. :)

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  9. I get a Glamour subscription (barely time to read it anymore unless my kids are napping!) but I DID see you in there before I read the blog today and wondered if it was you! Pretty cool :)

    Kelley

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    1. Wow, that's so neat that you had seen the article already. Glad people are actually reading it!

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  10. Thank you so much for doing this article! I really admire your bravery for being willing to have your story published in a magazine! And I appreciate all you time and work that went into it! Also, I am sure it was a huge leap of faith, not knowing exactly what the magazine would say! Thank you for being willing to put your story out there like that so that people like me who are using donor eggs can have children who feel more 'normal'. The more people who tell their story, the less "weird" the general public will view it! You really made a difference in my family already! Last week my mom read this article at the hair salon and called me right after to tell me all about it! Thank you!

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    1. Thanks so much for the comment, I agree I hope it takes the "weird" out of the situation!

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  11. Wow, referring to egg donation as a trend? This is one of the things about infertility coverage in the news that really bothers me. The New York Times publishes its articles about IF in the Fashion and Style section. It is a disservice. But at least you shared an important story and despite the headline, people will remember your story and perhaps learn about this option for the first time. That's cool. I'll check it out!

    (I hope your boss and pediatrician read it!)

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