I am sure you aren't aware that I am pretty important this month....lol. My sister and I are in this months issue of Glamour Magazine, well in a tiny blurb on the side of an artice, but that counts right! Actually one of the editors of the magazine happens to read my blog (who knew) and contacted me over a year ago. I did a phone interview, then my sister did a phone interview, and even hubby was interviewed. It probably sounds a lot more "glamour"ous than it really is. The amount of time it took; including numerous emails going back and forth, verifying my medical history, the interviews themsleves, and fact checking all for a couple of quotes seems a bit ridiculous. That just gives me a glimpse of what goes into making magazines, and it seems crazy.
I had to laugh when I saw the title of the article. The premise is asking the reader if they would ever use their sister as an egg donor. Talk about trivializing the issue, like I woke up one day and thought hell why not. Seriously unless someone is dealing with infertility it isn't something anyone can truly understand. Did I ever think that I would use my sister as an egg donor, 15, 20 or even 5 years ago, not a chance. Not that I was against it, it just wasn't in any plan I ever had. Honestly I don't really even want to read peoples opinions, I don't care what they think. Maybe I am a skeptic but I just don't think it is possible for the general population to get "my journey" (or the journey of other infertile women). Actually come to think of it, I do care what they think. I guess I didn't use to, but now that my boys are here they deserve the respect and dignity of any baby or person for that matter and I feel protective of what some people might say. I really don't want to hear about it being creepy or about how I could have "just adopted" (like that is a simple and easy decision in itself ). My point is that it was a personal choice that was right for me and my family and I don't really want to be criticized or even scrutinized for my decision. I don't know why I am assuming that there will be that kind of feedback but I just know some people out there aren't as open minded as I would like them to be. Don't get me wrong for the most part people have been so supportive and kind about my journey. They seem to understand the deep desire to be a mother and celebrate what a wonderful thing my sister did for us. However, we all know how rude and judgmental people can be when hiding behind a computer. Plus I have had the odd rude encounter. My boss for one, she said that me carrying my sister and husbands babies (they are my damn babies by the way) was like a Jerry Springer episode and then there was my pediatrician who continuously asked why my husband and sister just didn't get a hotel room instead of racking up all of our treatment bills. I guess it is just plain old ignorance and that's actually why I did the article, hoping I would shed some light on the issue and let people know difficult infertility is, how incredible science is, and most of all how amazing my sister is.
They also present egg donation as the latest trend, which is so ridiculous! I would describe it more of a huge medical marvel mixed with a pure act of altruism. I didn't jump on some bandwagon to be cool.
I actually think that I am being a bit critical of the article because nothing could really ever descibe what it is like to make such a big decision and nobody really knows your journey until they walk in your shoes. Just a thought but I think a new title for the article could be "The Difficult Journey of an Infertile Women to Make her Dreams of Motherhood Come True: A Story of an Extremely Generous Sister and Her Truly Grateful Sister".
Anyways if you happen to be a Glamour Magazine follower or in the grocery store checking out take a look at page 120 " Would You Have a Baby With Your Sister’s Egg?
A real-life story you’ll never forget—about a trend that’s on the rise"